Today, August 14th is my husband and my 20th wedding anniversary! Twenty years is a long time! You don’t even have to tell me. And in case you’re wondering, marrying my husband has been one of the best decisions I have ever made. When I first met him, I knew there was something special about him. I could feel it. Has that ever happened to you? There was just something about him and it was way beyond anything superficial. I describe it as feeling it in my soul. What “it” was, not really sure but I felt “it”. We started out as friends and co-workers. I think that might be one of the things that helped us to develop our relationship. Is our relationship perfect after 20 years? Oh hell no! That doesn’t mean it’s not working. It just means you can’t create anything perfect with two imperfect people. What works for us may not work for others. Any advice I give is based on common sense and what has worked for us. We’re both happy and still working to continue to grow old together as we raise our son.
So, if you’re new to my blog then you don’t know how this works. Every year for our anniversary, I write a blog on tips I feel are important for a successful marriage/relationship. Technically, this blog is new to a lot of people considering my old blog was with another web host and once I switch, they deleted all of my content. That broke my heart but I guess it was just a reality check to let me know that I can’t hold onto the past. Anyway, per my usual, here are some tips I think help to foster a healthy and satisfying relationship/marriage.
To be honest, I wanted to provide 20 items since it’s our 20th but darn it, I’m tired. Besides, I think that pretty much covers it. I would tell you what we did for our anniversary, but we won’t be celebrating it until next week. He couldn’t get this week off. Ah well…better late than never. Perhaps I’ll tell you the week after next. Anyway, I do hope these items have been helpful. Again, these are things that I’ve learned over my 20 years of marriage. I do believe that I am a different person than he married but he still loves me. I guess he’s changed a bit too and yes, I still love him. Love means being flexible but you should never bend someone so much that they break. I think at that point, depending on what caused them to break, it is no longer love. Death and sickness do not count in this scenario.
So, if you have tips you’d like to add, I would love to read them! Thanks so much for reading and I hope you’ll be back for more! One last thing, yes, that is a rather old picture of us from 2007. You can see our son in the background. He was 2 years old then. Just think about the cobbler’s shoes and you’ll understand. (le sigh).